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Introduction
The fifth principle of Napoleon Hill's 17 principles of success is the Pleasing Personality. Our personality decides whether people will be attracted towards us or shy away. It is a display window that shows our character to others and it distinguishes us from other people. It is our trademark and hence we must see ourselves just as others see us. Napoleon Hill explained how 29 major factors shape our personality and we can modify our personality at any given point in time.
29 Factors of a Pleasing Personality
1. A Positive Mental Attitude: This is the most important factor for the formation of a pleasing personality. We can attract other people by showing our positive mental attitude. The outside world can be very harsh on us but we can decide our response in every situation.2. Tactfulness: There are several ways of telling the same thing. We must say things in a more pleasing way. Many people may ask very obvious questions but we must respect other’s feelings and answer them accordingly.
3. Flexibility of the Mind: We know that certain things are not in our control and some situations are bound to get out of control. We must understand that and try to be more flexible.
4. Sincerity of Purpose: We must be very sincere towards our goals. Also, we must try to be sincere with our friends, colleagues, family members, and the supreme power.
5. Promptness of Decision: We must take fast decisions after calculating the relevant risk. Many people miss the golden opportunity while contemplating for too long.
7. Faith in Infinite Intelligence: Faith is very important when we are trying to accomplish very difficult tasks. We can’t do so many things but we can always pray to the supreme personality for required strength.
8. Fondness for People: We must like all types of people. Many people may like to remain alone and others may require our company. We have to respect all type of people.
9. Frankness in Manner of Speech: We must try to tell truth without mixing it with lies. All truths must be told in a complete manner but not with omissions.
10. Common Courtesy: Each and every person deserves a courtesy. We must show courtesy towards a homeless as well as a wealthy personality.
We will explain rest of the factors in our next article.
Summary
If you do not have a pleasing personality and people used to shy away from you then you have to search for causes. We must also understand that we can make our personality very pleasant by inculcating 29 factors mentioned earlier in this article. Pleasing personality can do wonders for you and can make you rich. Andrew Carnegie used to pay USD 75000 as annual compensation to his company’s CEO Charles Schwab and additional 1 million dollars as a bonus for his pleasing personality that created harmonious atmosphere in his company. You can also create your market value by having a pleasing personality.All the best.
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