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Dealing with Toxic People: Why It’s a Discipline, Not a Skill

Introduction Most people believe that dealing with toxic individuals is a skill. Something you learn. Something you master. Something you use to “handle” difficult people. But the truth is different.  It’s not a skill.  It’s a discipline.  Because toxic people don’t need to be defeated. They don’t need to be proven wrong. And they rarely change because someone argues better than them. In fact, most toxic people eventually become victims of their own behavior. Their patterns catch up with them—strained relationships, broken trust, and limited growth. But until that happens, you still have to deal with them.  And that’s where discipline comes in. It’s not about controlling them. It’s about controlling yourself. Here are seven practical ways to handle toxic people without losing your peace, your focus, or your sense of self.  Shift the Conversation with Simple Questions Toxic individuals often thrive on reactions. They provoke, exaggerate, and create narratives tha...

8 Ways To Create Flow According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Introduction Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is a famous happiness researcher. He chose to become that due to the adversities that he faced growing up being a prisoner during World War II. During this time, he saw the pain and suffering of a large number of people around him. After going through all these difficulties, he wanted to know more about happiness and contentment. Csikszentmihalyi interviewed various people, who described that their optimal states of performance occurred when their work simply without much effort flowed out of them. Due to this, he developed the term “flow state”, in the flow psychology of optimal experience. 8 Ways To Create Flow According To Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1) Must have clear goals and immediate feedback: The first way of creating flow in flow psychology of optimal experience is to have clear goals. You need to have a clear finish line if you want to go into flow. Also, you should give yourself immediate feedback on the effectiveness of your actions. If you...

Scarcity Mindset vs Abundance Mindset

Introduction Mind is the most powerful tool and your Mindset is the most important component of your success in life. In a study by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, the mindset of young students was examined in which she found that children with a growth mindset who believed that intelligence can be developed were able to overcome academic challenges better than those with a fixed mindset that the intelligence of a person is predetermined. Stephen Covey mentioned about Scarcity Mindset and Abundance Mindset in his best-selling book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Scarcity mentality refers to people amongst whom, one person takes a big piece and leaves less for everyone else whereas, in abundance mindset, they believe that there is plenty out there for everybody. Steps to shift from Scarcity Mindset to an Abundance Mindset? 1.) Focus on what you have Ideas like you aren’t doing good job or you don’t have transferable skills, are all based on scarcity in which you focus more ...